Common myths about “real” men

There seems to be a list of things out on the internet that need to be accomplished to define yourself as a “real” man. Lets break them down one by one.

1. The more you get laid, the more of a man you are – Let’s dispel this myth right off the bat. Inside a monogamous relationship we’re going to have sex in intervals. Sometimes it’s a lot, sometimes it’s a little. How and why is a different post. Outside a monogamous relationship, aka “hooking up”, sex becomes little more than a release with no future. If you’re defining your manhood by how many women you’ve slept with this week, you’re defining your life incorrectly. Instead try to count how many valuable relationships you have.

2. Real men make a lot of money – No not really. What a real man does is take care of his family and work toward a future goal. That goal may include a high salary, but it’s not the definition of a future. Many a rich man will tell you he doesn’t find his “manliness” in his bank account.

3. A real man’s wife is found in the kitchen – in nothing but sexy lingerie while she makes him a sandwich. Every woman I’ve ever known that fell into this category ended up hating herself and her husband for it. Know what happens? Divorce city and she ends up with half your stuff. The reality is a man should be leading his house in a direction just like a CEO leads a company. Everyone in that family will have certain responsibilities, and everyone loves to hear what a great job they’re doing.

4. A real man succeeds at everything he does – I hope not. Almost everything I’ve learned I learned from failing, not succeeding. If you have nothing but successes in your life, it’s time to raise the bar a little higher and feel some defeat. You’ll be surprised how much stronger it will make you.

5. A real man doesn’t commit to one woman – A man that refuses to commit is a man that

A. Doesn’t have very much confidence in his ability to keep a relationship. i.e. not a leader

B. Doesn’t feel he deserves happiness.

C. Doesn’t want to share his toys.

D. He’s weak.

One of the definitions of manhood is the ability to commit to something for the long haul. The same man that refuses to enter into a committed relationship usually is looking for a new job every few years. Commitment is hard. Dems da facts. It takes a strong man to do it.

Know any more man myths that need to be busted? Leave a comment. If it’s good I’ll edit the post and credit you on it.



6 responses to “Common myths about “real” men

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  2. “Lead a house like a CEO leads a company?” That’s a big call, you might be on to something there!

    Let me see…. isolate yourself from your staff, demand remuneration that is grossly excessive compared to people that serve your empire, set performance objectives that you yourself don’t adhere to and tie them into the salary review process. Finally put profit before everything else, so that you keep the people outside your household really happy. Ouch!

    In the 6 CEO’s I’ve had, one got fired for inappropriate behaviour toward a secretary, another told his staff that working conditions were not his problem and a third put the company in the hands of creditors after financial mismanagement and embezzling funds. The rest just followed the behaviour I articulated above.

    But seriously, better men in the household are those that provide mutual understanding and respect in a partnership, which in turn makes for good joint decision making, attributes that CEO’s in my experience sadly lack!

    • Lol you’ve obviously had more experience with ceos than I’ve had. The few I knew worked in the trenches with the team when needed, created a solid team environment, and looked out for everyones well being as best they could while still keeping the company profitable. They were all smaller companies. Thanks for the comment, I love your blog!

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