The concept of a mentor has long since passed away for the modern man. These days the only place you’ll hear about mentorship is in business and corporate circles, so here’s the question you need to ask:
If it’s good enough for corporate leaders why isn’t it good enough for me?
The dictionary says a mentor is “an experienced and trusted advisor”. This is technically true, however for a man, a mentor is much more. He’s someone who has weathered the storms of life and come out on the other side. He’s done what you’re trying to do. He’s made the errors you’re likely to make.
He represents masculinity.
Masculinity is difficult to fully define. It can’t be read about and applied, it needs to be taught. It’s experienced through adventures with other men, normally including a mentor type. It’s discovered while trout fishing in a lonely creek, or rock climbing in a dusty canyon. It’s found on road trips, camping trips, and in woodworking shops.
Women will never be able to teach masculinity. They can never truly understand the masculine drive. The concept of conquering something just because it’s there to conquer is foreign to them.
Which brings us back to the need for a mentor. For some men, their father will make an excellent mentor. For others, they will need to seek out someone more suitable.
People look at men today and wonder what went wrong. How did the hero of yesterday become the couch-potato-sitting, video-game-playing, junk-food-eating man of today? Where is his thirst for adventure? The desire to experience danger and live to tell about it? The need to conquer a foe and win the prize?
Where is his masculinity?
It’s there. It’s inside every man, regardless of age or race. The only thing lacking is a strong mentor to bring it out.
Perhaps you find yourself believing you need a mentor. Congratulations! You’ve taken the first step of a life changing journey.
Perhaps you’re reading these words and thinking you don’t need to be mentored because your confident in your masculinity.
If that’s the case, perhaps it’s time for you to be a mentor.